How Emotional Intelligence results may not be emotionally intelligent.

How Emotional Intelligence results may not be emotionally intelligent.

My Emotional Intelligence is a concern I must address.

An #EmotionalIntelligence #Appraisal derived from a self-assessment questionnaire tells me this.

I won’t dispute the results, since I took the appraisal specifically to identify if there were any areas for improvement. It seems there are many.

I expected to be weaker in some areas, naturally, and stronger in others. I didn’t expect my Emotional Intelligence to “limit effectiveness” in all areas – #SelfAwareness, #SelfManagement, #SocialAwareness and #RelationshipManagement.

I’ll follow the recommended improvement strategies, of course, since they seem useful and interesting.

However, doing the appraisal itself caused me to consider the legitimacy and accuracy of results obtained through self-assessment.

I know these type of appraisal are not scientifically binding, but nevertheless, some people may baulk at results that could potentially prove detrimental to self-confidence if not precise or truthful.

Whilst answering the penultimate question, I became conscious of truly thinking about my answers. And therein lies a problem. If we overthink our traits and personality, do we answer how we think we behave or how we actually behave as perceived by others? In most cases we don’t realise how we behave until others tell us accordingly, both good and bad.

The answers I had given were most likely how I think I behave, rather than my actual behaviour as perceived by others. Thus I revisited each question and changed my answer.

Herein lies the second problem. Was I now answering too overcautiously, assuming worst-case scenario behaviour for the benefit of the appraisal?

Moreover, was I skewing the results to appear worse in order to gain maximum benefit from the ensuing improvement strategies? If the results of the appraisal deemed me 100% emotionally intelligent, what benefit would I get from actually doing the appraisal at all?

If Superman purchased an automobile and was told it was useless because he can fly everywhere, would he pretend to be grounded in order to get value from his purchase?

Can we truly rely on any results about ourselves gained from a self-assessment questionnaire? A pariah’s results could suggest there’s a fluffy kitten inside, and the fluffy kitten with apparent evil intent may appear on the most-wanted list.

Considering this is a self-assessment to appraise our #EQ, how emotionally intelligent are the results?

Peter Mulville has over 23-years’professsional experience focusing on organisational challenges, such as business processes and improvements, facilitation and enablement, service management orientation, and strategy. Experienced in leadership, coaching, mediation, team-velocity and the concept of People-First, Peter is critical thinking, complex problem solving and uses Emotional intelligence and body language to nurture a culture of trust, respect, communication and cohesion. Peter is also a Project Manager and well-versed and experienced in governance, risk, and compliance, IT information security and SQL business intelligence.

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Douglas Suvalle

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6y

This reveals a person asking that deep question - Who am I? The quest for authenticity is the most noble. In every growth moment we ask ourselves 1 of 8 questions. What can I do? What do I learn? What do I do? How can I be happy? What is God? How can I be successful? How can I improve my relationships? Who am I? Congrats man, you have acknowledged you are in a growth phase! So here are the answers in 1 word: Experience, Read, Organize, Enjoy, Create, Persist, Communicate, Love. Go BE Peter. Do that thing you always wanted to, read books about things that interest you, clean up and get more organized, enjoy the little things - the smell that reminded you of something happy, go be a creator- of content of music of art of your craft, go talk to your friends and family and get caught up and learn how you may help them. Then you will feel so much love for yourself. For your ecosystem of people. And then you will look in the mirror and know exactly who you are. The person I know who can change the world.

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David Bruhl

Window and Door Manufacturer | Window Supplier | Window Replacement | Aluminium Windows Sydney

6y

Interesting article. Thanks.

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